Keeping accountable to others can be the difference between finishing well and failing miserably. But most of the time, it isn’t done in a way that provides much more than a slap on the wrist and a guilt trip.
Usually there’s a list of questions regarding different sins you could have committed that week.
Did you lie? Did you cheat? Did you lust?
Did you have a quiet time every day?
You have two choices … you can lie or feel guilty. It’s even worse when the other guy had what was apparently a “perfect” week. The problem is, you end up simply looking to avoid certain sins, which has the potential to draw you even more to those areas. At the very least you’re focusing more on failures than on a positive vision.
I’ve recently started meeting with a couple of guys, and the approach has been different.
We talk about things like integrity (at work, home, school – how are you using your time?), evangelism, time with God, etc. We talk about how we need to grow, but we focus on where we want to end up.
Do we address each other’s blind spots and challenge each other? Absolutely. Life’s still a journey. It still takes work. We still need God to refine our hearts and characters. But the emphasis isn’t on the little stumbles we all make. It’s on the steps we’re taking to follow God daily.