Ben Arment talks about mentoring, pointing out that most of the time, an apprentice asks a leader to mentor him/her. But maybe, there’s a better (and more Biblical) way. He writes…
Paul talked about the relationship between spiritual mentors and apprentices in 2 Corinthians 12:14 – “For the children ought not to lay up for the parents, but the parents for the children.”
I read this as – “Spiritual parents, remove the barriers for your apprentices.”
To proactively mentor someone is not arrogant. It’s an act of service. Rather than “fielding questions” over a lunch you make them pay for… seek out apprentices and find out how you can serve them.
I love that last paragraph. Helping others grow should be an honor – an important thing we’re all doing. But more often it’s viewed as a momentary distraction from the “real” parts of life and ministry we’re doing.
I’m at a point in my life where I’m seeing it on both ends. On one side, I’m working to pour into college students. But on the other side, I realize I need the wisdom of others as well. I think there are three key areas we all need – mentors investing in us, peers we’re living life alongside, and apprentices (mentorees?) who we’re investing in.
A lot of times people hold back from mentoring others because it feels prideful. – What makes me think I can speak into someone else’s life? I haven’t arrived yet!
But the truth is, the best mentors don’t have all the answers. They’re people who listen, who encourage, and who challenge others. Can you listen? Have you done stuff? You can start investing in someone else.
Honestly, I’m trying to grow in all three areas. I want to invest more in others. I need to open up and get closer with the peers around me. And I’m realizing that the more I’m living life and pouring into others, the more I need the wisdom of those around me. I need people speaking into my life.
So where are you with the three relationships?